The Top 10 Don’ts After a Break Up.

A list of ten things you do not do once you break up. So many times people have so much advice to give. What I have enclosed is a list of some of the things we do not do once we break up.

1. Never call your ex companion. When this happens you start mixing old mix feelings with new. Making things more complicated than before. You leave the individual you just called things off with thinking assuming that you two never really called it quit. You need a clean break.
2. Never feel guilty. If you were the one that decided to let go of the relationship then you probably had good reason to do what you did. When you feel guilty you feel obligated to patch things up that may be completely out of your control. Feeling guilty leaves you with regrets. You start to second guess your self and what you stand for. Feeling guilty is normal but know that you are only human. Take a moment to think about why you chose to make that decision. If you feel as if your decision was terrible than it may have been not the wises thing to do, but if you feel a sense of relief than you may have made the best decision.
3. Never get under the next. You know that old saying to get over one get under another. Well, that saying itself could back fire in your face. Relationships are hard all ready. The last thing you need is baggage from a previous relationship colliding into the next. When you break up with someone you need time alone. Time to figure out who you are. Get back involved in the things you may no longer do. Go on a trip of some sort with family and friends. It wouldn’t be fare for the next person if you were not completely over your ex. You wouldn’t be able to give it your all. Think of yourself and what you may find to seem fare. Would you want to be with someone who came with drama stamped on their forehead?
4. Don’t go out and party nonstop every night. This is only a headache and could cause emotional damage. You need to allow yourself some time to heal. I am not saying don’t go out. Its okay to go out with friends. Just don’t make it a every night routine.
5. Never act as if you are fine when you are not. Give it some time. Cry if needed. Let go of what ever it is that you are holding inside of you. This process only helps you heal. Start a journal if you have to. Letting go of everything on your mind onto paper. Talk about it to friends, counselors, parents or who ever you feel you could confide in.
6. Never drown your sorrows in alcohol. Not only can this become a very dangerous habit it is also an unhealthy way of living. Drinking is never good for you. Cancers, illnesses, and losing the very things you care the most about is just some of the things you lose. When you have consumed all the alcohol you can and the hang over starts the feelings come back. So if it were you who was told it was over look at it as a lesson learned this chapter is over. The last thing I would want is for them to feel like they were wright when they weren’t.
7. Do not Beg. I repeat do not beg. The relationship may be over but your life is not. Get up find a hobby, join a organization that consumes a lot of extra time and keep moving forward. If you feel that this is a measure for you I can assure you its not. Let go, stop crying and move on. Your pride may be all you have so hold on to it if you feel.
8. Don’t react in violent. Yeah, you may say what but a lot of times people do react in this way. This is not good. For you or for the other person involved. You could go to jail if things got out of hand. Domestic disputes is never good on any ones record. When you feel like your anger is taking control this is when you need to seek counseling. Clearly something is wrong when your behavior gets out of control like this. That may be one of the reasons as to why you are single.
9. You shouldn’t feel as if you have to relocate. I am not saying this is not good its just that why run from your problems. Stay and faced them head on and gain acceptance. Problems are solved a lot quicker when you confront them. You may not want to see them with someone else, but you just may. That’s life we live and learn. We keep moving. This may be painful but it will get better. Let them shine, blossom or do what ever they feel they have to do. Your moment will come when your tears are no longer tears of sorrow. Besides what looks like it could be them having a great time, may just be them pretending.
10. Never do anything you will regret. Like sleep with a best friend or date his brother or her sister. They may have hurt you, but this is not the end. Don’t be little your character for something so small. Letting go and moving on hurts far more than you sleeping with the sibling and friend. Although that may sting for a minute. I guarantee you that about a day or two later you will be disgusting to them. Let it go with class.